Crossing paths

Sometimes, I can't help but marvel at how facinating life is ... yes, it's always full of ups and downs, always springing surprises ... full of emotions. But I guess it's not as simple as just a simple biological explaination. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying the biology of life itself is simple ... until today, there are still missing pieces of the puzzles ...

But think of it, what makes you cross path with your parents, your spouse, friends, enemy, neighbours or even the very person you sit next to in the MRT? And sometime, this very person keeps crossing your path time and again ... an orbit? haha.

Maybe my jetlag is making me type nonsenses again ... well, this time at my training, I cross path with colleagues from Brazil and Belgium on top of the usual Switzerland/Germany guys. So for the few days, our path crossed, we go to the same place with nearly the same agenda of bringing some knowledge home, but after that, our path split again. We go back to our own lifes, own homes with our own missions. And all this, happens 6000-8000 miles away, even the day and night is inverted; so different is our path but yet they crossed at times...

Is this not fate or destiny? I can't find other explaination for it then. Try it, the next time you look at your parent, your spouse, your kids, your friends or even the person serving you in a shopping center or just walking by you ... look at them hard, then ask, how precise the timing has to be, how accurate the co-ordinates had to be that you are looking at him/her now ... a slight 20secs of mis-timing or just a different turning of direction would have put you both on totally different stranger path.

A father's Dilemma ...

Once again, I'm 6000 miles away from home. The extremely cold winter did little to warm my heavy heart.

Little Edan now knows how to say "hello" when I called home just now, he still can't speak full sentences, his vocabulary is so limited ... but when I speak to him, saying all those words that I had always spoken to him at home or when playing with him ... he cried, he wouldn't let go of the phone when his mum want to take it from him ... ai, a father's pain between work and his son.

Just last weekend, at a wedding dinner, I was happily chatting with my ex-teammate(navy time) when we happen to chat about my son. She mentioned about how now 4months old baby is to be sent to "school" or something! Gosh! Just when I was showing my astonishment, another lady from the same table added ... oh yes, I sent mine too at 4 month old, training him on ... (I think something like flash card recognision etc ... I did not really bother to listen). She continued ... "my son at 2 yrs old (of course I just told her my Edan is now coming 2 yrs old) already can recognise A-Z" ... I jokingly replied, oh shit, then mine's very late in progress already!!!

This however, leaves a very lasting impression. It makes me think a lot ... 4 months old ... my god! I always thought about how kiasu parents are ... and until now I think I'm very relax with my boy ... but I really start to ponder now. With all the kiasu parents out there ... can you imagine, sending child to "school" at 4 month old ... walao ... if I do not do something about it, my boy will definitely lose out in the early years in schools.(yes, only early years, things will balance out as they age and other factors will set in) Nothing much I can do about it now but what should I do with my coming second child? My belief is always to give my children their childhood. A child should be a child ... spare them the social pressure. But if they come to learn about it, will they blame me for being too relax with them? Ai ... a father's dilemma ...

I guess my stand is clear, just let nature take it's course ... ultimately, there are still so many factors that determine a person success in life ... of course the definition of success itself is so subjected to debate already.

I wish the lady and her child the best ... but I guess I should tell her what my wife said ... "oh, our Edan can now hem out the tune of nearly every advertisment song or sing along already ... " hahahaha! I nearly die laughing ... I guess afterall, they are rich people who feels the social pressure and have the ability to put their kid on the ferrari way to life.

I guess many still do not understand, they are just squeezing everything as early as possible ... but that does not make a child more intelligent or successful. Life is afterall a marathon ... not a 100m race ... I guess this is it ... :)

* if anyone who is reading this, please do not feel I'm criticising anybody or just being a sour grape, I'm really pondering over these question and writing down my thoughts or saying it out ... nearly always help me sought things out faster. Yes, again my mind is cleared. :) I will be the father who will give my son his childhood, not to impose the pressure I face from the society on him. Afterall, that's what a father should do ... right or wrong, I guess there will never be an answer.

Oh no! Missing month!!!

Oh no!!! I guess this is the first time(or at least a very rare occurance) that I missed a month in my blog since I started one. Not that it will kill me, just that when I look back to this diary months later, I will probably ask what happened in Oct 07 ...

Nothing special actually, the usual time flying lor ... haha. Managed to spend some great time with my family, going for shopping in ChinaTown ... and it's only when we go there that I realise it seems a long time since I last went there with my parents/family. These moments are invaluable! Treasure them! Of course there's Edan driving one battery car in Chinatown... haha. Work wise was exciting, started installation of our IT project into Singapore General Hospital network! Never stop learning hur ... haha.

Nov is interesting ... 1st Nov till 4Nov ... already kena 2 summon for cheating on parking ... sigh ... Kena OT call for fri-sat-sun back to back ... and tomorrow going to settle another tedious task ... God bless me a peaceful week ahead!(Very slim chance, schedule already packed ... haha!) Oh, next week going to Lucerne again for the 3rd time. The one good thing about it is probably I'm going via business class ... no longer need to suffer for that 13hrs flight le!!! YES!Just hope the air-stewardess is chio ... haha!

Hmmm ... and before that will be attending Gab's wedding! So cute ... like small boy but marrying liao!!! hahahhahah~!!!!! I hope he dun see this, dun think he come to my blog tho ... hehe!

The other picture is big story hor! Nov1, my mother-in-law opened her own mama shop! haha! It's at the bus-stop 1 stop away from Westpoint hospital, come support her if anyone is nearby hor! Buy newspaper or car magazine! hahaha!